Relationship Resources is the website for relationship coach, Chuck Starnes (that’s me:-)
If you feel stuck in your marriage, here are TONS OF FREE RESOURCES that can help!
Also my programs provide powerful tools that can help you reconnect and rekindle the passion and romance in your relationship.
I’ve been using Imago Relationship Principles to help couples for more than 20 years.
My office is in the heart of Silicon Valley (San Jose CA USA), but I do lots of coaching on Skype (actually I use Zoom but you get the idea).
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3 steps to getting past the all the blaming and defensiveness.
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Relationship science tells us that frustrations in your marriage that are recurring and that trigger an intense emotional reaction, come from your past, not your
Ron said, “I don’t want to be in a marriage where we never have sex!” Amy responded, “Well, I don’t want to be in a marriage where
If you are being nice in order to “keep the peace” in your marriage, that probably means you’re not talking about what you’re really feeling
Have you lost the feelings of love you once had? Are you longing for more passion in your marriage? Are you ready to call it
Some marriages get stuck in a brutal cycle of blaming and defensiveness. Blaming and defensiveness happens because of “symbiosis”, a state of living together as
Most of us see conflicts in our marriage as bad. But did you know that conflicts can bring us to new levels of healing and
Couples often say they have “communication” problems. In the video below, Rob and Janet show us how to communicate in a way that dissolves all
For years, Mary pleaded with Jim to work on their marriage, but Jim felt they didn’t need help. Eventually she gave up and made plans
Mike’s anxiety and depression got so bad he finally hit a wall. Having almost lost his marriage, he can now barely even function at work.
Ron and Amy were in a sexless marriage. Their sex life was almost non-existent. A marriage is considered “sexless” if a couple is only having
“Why is it that you get to be the Sugar Daddy, and I always have to be the ‘bad cop’, party pooper disciplinarian with the
Like many couples, you may be asking… “How did I marry the most incompatible person on the planet?” “Why could I not see who this
Sam and Anna were not happy in their marriage. One big reason was that self-rejection was blocking Anna’s ability to receive love from Sam. “No
Debbie said she had only one problem in her marriage! It was her husband, Will! “Our counselor told us Will has to work on himself
When Jenny discovered her husband Tom was visiting porn sites on the internet, trust was broken, and their relationship was suddenly on the rocks. That’s
Jim and Patty’s marriage was in conflict. Jim was a logical, “black and white” kind of thinker while his wife Patty was more sensitive to
If you’re thinking of divorce on the grounds of incompatibility, STOP and think again! Incompatibility is the grounds for a great relationship. Compatibility is actually
Experts cite communication problems as the number one reason marriages fail. But good communication in marriage is not enough, unless that communication leads you to a
When I suggest that a marriage conflict may stem from a childhood wound, some marriage partners protest. “Wounds from childhood? Not me. My parents were
We know emotional connection is important in marriage, but why? Here are five powerful benefits of emotional connection with your partner that you may not
Peter and Kathy had an amazing marriage breakthrough! But after a few months they found themselves stuck again in the same vicious cycle of blaming
Brent and Jewels Niccum went from being employees in a large corporation to being owners of a multinational company overnight! But despite their success in
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Did you know that most marriage partners regularly abuse each other? And they do it without even realizing it. What?! That’s right. There is an
So, you fell madly in love, and you were certain that “this is the one!” Right? But soon after you were married, “romantic love” faded,
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If we are going to build our dream marriage we must understand the effect our childhood has on our relationship. Most couples describe their dream
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When Dennis and Marsha came to see me, their negativity toward each other was off the charts! Here are some steps they took to turn
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My business is finding marriage tools that work! So why, after so many years, do these tools not work for some people? Well, the answer
When we overreact to something our partner says or does, we kill any chance of connecting with them. The logic goes like this: The connection
It’s true! You can resolve every single frustration you have in your marriage…if you understand this one important reality: Behind every frustration is a wish.
So many couples are staying together in an unhappy marriage. When you ask how they’re doing, they’ll say, “OK”. That’s code for “I’ve settled”. In
Talking is only one part of the communication process in marriage. Real communication happens when we listen too. Duh? Really? I kind of knew that.
Gratitude will transform your marriage! And here’s a powerful tool that can make that happen! Believe it or not, one drop of negativity pollutes the
Is your marriage stuck in a vicious cycle of blaming and defensiveness? Here’s why that happens, and what to do about it. Marriages get stuck
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Marriage is supposed to be two people becoming one. Right? Two people striving for “mutual purpose” in their life together. But for us it was
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I was that husband avoiding conflict! Here are three powerful insights that helped me stop avoiding conflict, and start engaging in a way that led
This was our story! But we learned that with the right skills you can turn a marriage with conflicts into a relationship with a deeper
Does an affair mean the end of my relationship? Betrayal runs deep. Can I ever recover from this infidelity? Here are five steps that I’ve
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Marriage incompatibility can be transformed into an intimate partnership for healing and growth! Ever feel like you’re married to the most incompatible person on the
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