Has your relationship has lost some of it's sizzle?
Or worse yet, do you feel like the flame in your relationship is about to go out? Yikes!
Here is one way that is guaranteed to rekindle, not only your partner’s passion for you, but your passion for your partner as well. This is a twofer!
There is a secret about your partner, that, if you can discover it, it will cause them, over time, to fall madly in love with you.
Sometimes we refer to it as your partner’s love language. In short it’s whatever makes your partner feel loved.
And here’s a clue:
It's not what you think it is! It's what she (or he) thinks it is!
That may sound trite, but that’s where most of us mess up.
We assume we know and we’re offended when our efforts to show love don’t produce the desired results.
So how do I discover that secret? One word: LISTEN.
Again, I’m not trying to be trite. Listening is a skill that few of us have. Recent research claims that in an average conversation, we only hear 17% of what our partner is saying.
Why is that? I know in my relationship it’s because I can easily be triggered by my wife’s first few words, and then I start “reloading”.
At that point I’m not listening to her, I’m listening to me!
Here's the secret: Do caring acts that speak your partner's love language.
What is your partner's love language?
But there have been times when we’ve been in a heated stand-off, and I’ll ask myself what project is she working on in our patio garden.
Then before I try to resolve our conflict. I’ll just go out, pick up a shovel and start working on that project, and seriously, it’s not ten minutes before I feel her giving me a hug from behind and whispering in my ear, “I’m sorry.”
One more tip...watch for "droppings"
If you and I will do these kinds of caring acts, randomly and regularly, there will be no lacking in passion for each other.
Give it a try and let me know how it works in the comment section below.
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