Click on the titles below to access powerful tools that can help you on your journey to the relationship of your dreams.
Sharing regular appreciations with your partner will change your brain chemistry and transform the “space between” you. It will help you create a safety zone in your relationship and it will help your lower reactive brain will start to see your partner as a source of pleasure rather than of pain or conflict. And then it will be easier to share frustrations and turn conflict into connection.
This is the core tool for everything we do in Imago Relationship Therapy. Taking time to go deeper into your thoughts and feelings helps you deal with the root issues that are blocking intimacy in your relationship . And once you learn the dialogue skills of mirroring, validating, and empathizing, you can use this powerful tool everyday to stay closely connected with your partner.
This tool will help you push out negativity from the space between you as a couple and rewire your brain to see each other as a source of pleasure rather than pain. The exercise uses four critical moments of each day to maximize feelings of safety and closeness in your relationship.
This tool directs you to share with each other specifics about what your partner can do that makes you feel loved and cared about. Doing these things for each other randomly at least three times a day over the next two months will help reignite your passion for each other.
This tool used in conjunction with the next one, Your Unconscious Relationship Agenda, will help you discover how the positive and negative traits of your early caretakers formed an image in your unconscious mind that matched you with the one with whom you fell in love.
This tool will also help you discover what you are looking for in a love relationship and what your “fighting style” is based on your childhood defenses.
This tool uses the information from the Brief Relationship Workup to help you discover why you chose the partner you did, what you are looking in a love relationship, and your “fighting style”.
Behind every frustration is a wish in disguise. The purpose of this dialogue is to turn your frustrations into requests, asking for things from your partner that will meet your unmet needs from childhood.
The purpose of this dialogue is to deepen the memories of your childhood and increase empathy for each other.